How do we solve our harmful attitudes? how we show our children that although our – there are other forms of acting more appropriate?After the age of 16 I have used electric razors to shave me, systematically opened the lid and spilled the remnants of hairs on the toilet; It was only three year ago I understood that throwing the remains in trash basket avoided greater water consumption and kept the toilet cleaner.Before that simple thing there was a small crack in me, my big father for me was misguided for years or less tube not so proper conduct or practice.I thought that he was right and I turned out at least mobilizing realized me that I also took such behaviour for so many years.A simple meeting with parents, has awakened me the interest by introspection then realize that the teaching which I impart to my children has many chucks of hair in the sanitary things that I improperly without understanding why.I understand that copy that our teachers have taken to situations and attitudes that education is not only the absorption of information, which we are proposing to our children the same conduct in such cases.Although we can’t change the past if we can realize the reasons for our actions and understand the paradigms that we acted could be incorrect and understand why.It is not our obligation to avoid mistakes but I think important to tell them the reasons of why we have done so.We carry in ourselves a series of built up unconscious arguments most through generations, for good or for so many mal.Como, I have tried to be a good father, but read many books I will not improve my task without delving in my history, the reason for my actions.Luckily it has helped me lot topics that have taught me in meetings of parents how to recognize childhood wounds?These wounds are in the subconscious and memories of childhood, however there are behaviors that make manifest, some little things in which note us, something that suggests that we are acting from our wounded part.In the case of the movie The kid Bruce Willi the protagonist thanks to a trip to the past – going Recalling childhood moments that stopped the harmful messages such as feelings of guilt and hatred. Relive the moment in which was 8 years old and his father rebukes him telling him that his constant cries of child were going to kill his mother, event that happened then. However understood that such demonstrations originated in fears of the father feeling unable to be able to raise them alone in the suffering I felt knowing the death of his wife, nearby understands from another point of view that such expressions were the result of his fears but that really expressed was his thought, nor its intention to cause a feeling of guilt that lasted several years. Only after taking this perspective manages to forgive his father, erase their resentment and change their behavior being able to approach him with sincerity and love.Obviously these new behavior will be that our children will learn. If we understand why our wrong behavior will save great setbacks to our children, founding the roots of his actions with arguments rather than attempts to write in their minds the principles we want to give them based on repetition. Arguments, stronger than any rebuke. It is as the saying goes a root cut avoids many cuts of branches and the roots came with introspection. The facet that is missing today’s men delve.

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