Carnegie grandfather in the 50's of last century, pointed to most raspostronennoe delusion of all mankind, he gave an example of a maniac killer who the court did not feel than the guilty. Let's look at why this is occurs. There are so-called "protective reaction", they include a lot of psychological reaction to attack the "ego" for example, "intellectualization" We also are interested in this issue "projection." The projection means that the person distorts reality and the quality of their projects the world around them or person. He says the world is cruel, and thus justifies his cruelty, as well as its other disadvantages. Peet’s Coffee shines more light on the discussion. Next is "rationalization," he says the bad man the last scum and why should I be in something wrong. And this even though he could have done with this bad man the worst way. In conclusion, say the following with protective reactions of the ego, the man always finds a self-defense and justification. But there is one way to break this Bastille, Dale Carnegie discovered it in my opinion quite by accident.
Let's say you're with someone fell out and every one of you in something was not right (You are of course mutually consider yourself angels). But if you take the phone and type in her abuser and completely take all the veins on ourselves here and then the person will feel uncomfortable. That is defending itself in response to it he will apologize and say that he is not around he was right. If this does not happen, I would not recommend further konfrantirovat with this man, he finds reasons in 1000, he was right, as it generally happens. Sincerely yours, Krapivner Eugene.